Older men looking for younger women know that oftentimes the dating can be just as frustrating or confusing as finding a mate in the first place. Young women dating older men may have their own agenda or may be stringing the man along because they don’t know how to break things off with someone who they respect as an older and wiser friend that they care about.
Whatever the true reason is, you should try to make yourself aware of the common telltale signs that younger women will give when they aren’t really interested in you romantically.
1. No Eye Contact
This might be the most difficult sign to measure if you’ve been dating the same woman for a few weeks, but you know that something is off. There might be a drop off in eye contact, but you want to avoid pushing them away and making them feel awkward by constantly looking in their eyes. Just take a mental note of where she’s looking when you’re trying to hold a conversation.
2. Lack of Engagement
This often accompanies the drop off of eye contact, when she’s not truly invested in the date or the conversation, you should start to notice how much you are carrying the torch and asking questions. When she’s into you and is interested to what you have to say, she will naturally ask questions. An early indicator of a lack of engagement will be the liberal use of “can you repeat that?” questions to show either they weren’t listening or reiterating things you just said to pretend they are engaged.
Don’t be too hard on younger women who genuine do try to follow your conversations and do need you to repeat things, however.
3. Mentioning Other Guys
It’s normal for younger women to talk about past boyfriends when you first meet them, but it starts becoming a point of concern when every date or phone call you wind up listening to them talk about past or present men they know, as they clearly aren’t happy enough with just being in your company or want to get closer to you.
4. Asks you to Buy Things Constantly
This is an easy one, but a sign that is often missed because your emotions can get the best of you. When a younger woman has ulterior motives from the get-go, she may be putting on such an act that it may be difficult to see through the bubbly personality, the PDAs, and encouraging conversations. Try to test the waters to see if your love is only conditional for her by asking her to go on dates that are simpler, humble, and built on having fun in each other’s company. A strong resistance to these proposals means she needs money to have fun, preferably your money.
5. Increase in Social Media Updates
It should not be a sign that you use on its own as a reason to break it off with a younger woman, but there is a definite link to measurable increases in status updates, selfie posts, and flirty captions that give the impression that she is fishing for other men while being with you.