As more young women enter into relationships with older men we can expect certain issues to inevitably arise. Some of the obvious things such as public perceptions of the relationship, addressing the age difference with family members, and simple things like varying life experiences—all these things can be dealt with freely. The issue of sex and intimacy are obviously more sensitive and many women and men may not be comfortable discussing this openly even with their potential partners.
Obviously older men are not the same animals they were when they were in their twenties. The male libido decreases as men age and this may be a real concern for younger women dating older men. An article in SelfGrowth.com points out that older men simply may not have the stamina of younger men. This is a fact that both partners will need to understand. However, older men generally more than compensate for this lack of stamina. Many younger women find that “(o)lder men usually have more control over the physical and mental state of their being and a much greater knowledge of what elicits pleasure for a woman” (Chuba). This is to say that older men tend to be far more in control of themselves physically, using self-control and restraint in order to please their partners, and these men also have had more experience and therefore have more knowledge of what women want in bed. Simply put, older men know what they are doing far more than their younger counterparts.
What is more, many younger women complain that they require more foreplay form a partner than they typically get from men around their own age. Since older men also require more time to become aroused this results in a mutually pleasurable sexual relationships. Women are aroused and satisfied by the amount of time older men tend to take with them, and older men are equally gratified by the patience the relation requires. This becomes a win-win situation for both partners.
If these relationships are to last, the issues that attend the elder of the partners are obviously going to become more pronounced. As men age problems such as erectile dysfunction are going to come about for some of these couples. This is just a biological fact. As the male body ages, the functions of youthful vitality diminish. But a simple search on a site like WebMD offers all kinds of solutions for these issues. Of course, there is no substitute for consulting a physician on these matters, but we do live in an age that offers a number of effective medical treatments for erectile dysfunction (WebMD). The authors on WebMD go on to point out that “age” itself is a more complex idea than it once was. As medical science has increased longevity in general, sexual viability has also increased. In addition to the traditional medical treatments for sexual issues for older men, there are natural treatments that many men have found effective. Horny Goat Weed is one such herbal treatment for E.D. (WebMD). Again, always consult a medical doctor before any self-diagnosis or treatment.
The over picture for older men younger women relationships is positive. These relationships are becoming increasingly common and, thanks to modern medical science, the sexual and intimate dimension to these relationships remains positive. Older men are more patient and responsive to their partners than younger men. They have more experience and therefore more knowledge of what women want sexually. And any physical issues that may come along with aging in these men can largely be treated.
Chuba, Valerie. SelfGrowth.com.